love doesnt have to hurt

what is frenship? the term is commonly thrown around, but do we actually noe wad fens really are? to different people, friendship means different things. and to me, friends are very important.

friendship to me, is a commitment. or rather it must be a commitment. friends must be willing to sacrifice for each other. the saying "friends in need is a friend indeed". i tink dats wrong. a friend should be there, regardless whether you are in need or not. u must be willing to go the distance.

yet, i still believe friendship is a giving relationship. give, and hopefully get back some returns. one should not expect anything from the other party. be willing to always give, and in due time, you will be rewarded.

for true friendship to hold true, the simple element of trust is all important. it is the thing that seperates normal friends from the ones that truly matter. it is the defining factor of a working relationship. not just must you trust the other party, you must be able to place your trust in the value of the relationship itself. to be able to trust, and thus to know, that the bond between two people will ultimately transcend all petty issues. belief that it will hold strong. sounds impossible, but it can be done.

in any relationship, there are always problems. its inevitable. i have seen frienships degenerate, just because one or both parties weren't willing to give in. its of course easier said than done, but it can be done. even if it takes weeks of silence, it can, and will still work.

how quickly will you give up? how badly do you want that person? your answer will tell you jsut how much that person means to you. if he or she really means something to you, you won't ever give up. i believe in this. true friends must believe in one another. the cant just trust that the other party will act in a particular way. they must know it. they must make sure of it.

do u remember the time, back in primary school, where you told your best friend "friends forever"? i'm sure you've heard the phrase countless times, yet is it possible? i think it is, but you must be very clear how dear that person is to you. don't make empty promises. and it could work. it just could.

friendship hurts. it always does. which is why it should not be taken lightly. i believe a person is made by his or her friends, so be sure you pick the right people to surround youreslf with. it will sustain you or fuck you up real bad. nowadays, i think kids like us take friendship too lightly. we realise how important it is, how crucial it is in our lives, yet i'm not sure we're doing anything about it.

real friends must be willing to face the problems head on. one must not cower, must not run away from the problems. because it will ultimately cost each other each other. a lack of communication is key to breaking up two people. so we must be willing to talk. resolve issues as quickly as possible. yes give each other time, some space to think, and when that is done solve the problem.

i guess for me, themost important part of a true friendship is that both parties must put in the utmost effort for it to work. to do the above and more. to do everything within your capacity to understand the other, and to let the other understand you. its a gamble we have to take, lowering our walls, exposing the fragile inside. its a gamble that may pay off, if one puts in the effort. its hard work, i must admit.

true friendship. it asks for so much more than just a normal bf-gf relationship. and its so much better.

its hard to find someone like that, but if and when you do, its special aint it?

What is a friend? A single soul dwelling in two bodies. - aristotle